Bonnie Tyler in her song, "Holding Out for a Hero" Asked the question, where have all the good men gone, and where are all the gods to fight the rising odds? She then says I need a hero, I am holding out for a hero until the end of the night." She wants him to be larger than life, to be a Superman to sweep her off her feet; one that would fight [kthe storms and raging flood to come to her. It is with these unrealistic expectations that many, unfortunately, find themselves. This song like many others helps to solidify the story that is familiar to many of us, we are told to wait for our Prince Charming to come and rescue us from the tough things in our lives. That our lives are not complete until we are living the fairytale princess life. We look for our Superman just like Lois Lane. This fantasy has left many stuck searching for the superhero, Prince Charming, and a savior that has left many kissing frogs instead. There is nothing wrong with romance and being romantic; I am a die-hard Hallmark movie watcher; I love the idea of love but realize that love is about action as it is about emotions. The Cheeta Girls had a song out several years ago that resonated with many of us; where they sang-I don't want to be like Cinderella sitting in a dark, cold, dusty cellar; waiting for somebody to come and set me free. I don't want to be like someone waiting for a handsome prince to come and save me. On I will survive unless somebody's on my side. Don't wanna depend on no one else, I'd rather rescue myself." This is a swing in almost the opposite direction of being self-reliant. God wants us to depend on him first of all, then on others with who we are placed in community. There is nothing wrong with looking for a hero, as long as we remember that even Superman had a weakness.